There’s a few people I know who are really struggling at the moment with various things in life, so this is for you guys.
I struggle to take basic care of myself. I’m self-destructive when stressed, I like results and I am hopelessly impatient.
So this year so far has been a lesson in self care and I have learned some very important lessons.
Be kind to yourself.
I don’t mean feed the ego. The ego wants shiny things, it’s a magpie that buys into consumerism and the masquerade of self-image. Be kind to yourself. Think of how you would care for your children, whether you have them or not. You’d want them to eat well, to sleep peacefully, to expand their minds, to be safe and happy and loved.
So feed your inner child and be your own parent.
Patience is not a virtue I possess. In fact, any patience I have has to be cultivated. It gets depleted, and I have to replenish it. I have to constantly tell myself to slow down, to wait, that yes – so-and-so is too busy to text back, they don’t hate me.
I also have to be patient with myself. Internal changes do not happen overnight. They are things you work for every day.
I was talking to a close friend, and I think the biggest revelation we’ve had is that happiness is not inherent. For most of us, we are happy because we choose to be happy. That means doing things that make us healthy, keep pushing ourselves to be our personal best and surrounding ourselves with the people we love.
Notice your surroundings. Be aware of where you are, and who you are with and what you are doing. Life is full of surprises, but as someone who really suffers with anxiety, being aware allows me to be more comfortable.
It’s easy to get caught up in your own drama and forget about the people around you. Everybody does it and we do it all the time. Try to have care with people.
Breath is life. Get outdoors, breathe the fresh air and breathe deep. It will revitilise you, calm you and invigorate you.
Give yourself permission
Feel whatever it is you need to feel. And let it go. You’re feeling that way for a reason, you need to acknowledge it and use that to drive you forward.
Rest often and rest well. Vegetating for hours in front of the box might seem appealing but this is not rest. It is lazy and inefficient to rest this way all the time. Meditation, exercise, reading, walking, talking with friends and family are all restful. Rest does not have to be static.
I hope this doesn’t sound too preachy, and these are all things I am trying to put into practise.
Keep well, take care of yourselves.